How To Fight Fair In Couples’ Money Conflicts

Marriage is hard, and money makes it harder. Merging two lives, two beings who are always changing, is a delicate balance of individual autonomy and collective submission that requires perpetual calibration.

Into this fragile ecosystem, each partner brings their own financial history, and the balance sheet—what you own and what you owe—is just the beginning. Our individual life experiences with and around money have created a string of subconscious beliefs called “money scripts,” unspoken convictions that run in the background, guiding our behavior and silently judging the decisions of others.